I usually blog because something “pushes” me. It wont leave me alone until I write about it. It’s very strange. It will pop up in my head, then I will usually have small “signs” pokin’ at me until I give in and write. This entry is one of those times.
The last few days I have been talking to a few different friends about their relationships, dating life, what they want and dont want etc. Something kept popping in my head as I would sit and listen or when I was alone with my thoughts after the conversations…I really really knew exactly what I wanted in a relationship, or so I thought. I thought I needed X..Y..Z. Turns out, I had no idea what I really needed, what would really make me happy, what I would really cherish and love to death. I didnt know until I had it.
I had all this experience, bad and good. I had lists, I had books, I had dreams, I had movies and television, I had spirituality, I had magazines…all contributing to what I thought I needed and wanted in a man, in a relationship. None of these things can come close to what I have now much less compare. The man and relationship I have surpass all those things. Why didnt anyone ever tell me this would happen. That the “one” would just walk into your life one day and that would be it. You wouldnt run to your vision board to look at your list, you wouldnt open a book to see if this was right, you wouldnt compare him to anyone or anything, you wouldnt do any of those things. You would finally just “be.”
I always knew I would have something great with a man, the right man. I truly always believed that. I just thought I had to put all this work into making it happen. When really, I didnt have to do a thing. He found me. I had faith but only to a point. I had faith that IF iI did all this work then he would find me, lol.
Today I was on twitter and someone had “tweeted” this..”I wish we all had a chip inside us to lead us to the person we are supposed to be with” OMG when I read that, I knew, ok another little whisper, I need to write about this. So here I am writing about the fact we all want to be with someone. We all want to share a life with that special person. That person that just “gets it/us.” If you are a woman, just relax and have faith, I promise it WILL happen and you dont have to do a damn thing. Just be yourself, enjoy life, be happy and he will find you.
Men well since you guys are chaser um I guess just keep chasin’, for the right reasons, and you will find her:)
I would love to hear your love stories. Please share!
October 21, 2009 at 1:09 pm
You and I blog for the exact same reason! This is a great post. I just wrote one myself that sited the things I look for in a girl and reading yours just shot it all down in flames.
Thanks you, what you said makes so much more sense than having a set criteria for a person when what made the best relationships in my experience were the ones that took me by surprise.
Now that’s clear in my head.
October 26, 2009 at 2:26 pm
Im glad you like:) Thanks for reading! BTW I went to your page the other day and all your blogs were gone??? did you remove purposely?? I saw you still had about me, music etc. pages up but actual blogs from awhile ago were gone…just curious.